“Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hang on too long.” ~Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie
So…when is it too long, and when is it too soon? I don’t really have the answer. I can only voice out the same questions that you may ask when faced with this situation where you need to choose between letting go and hanging on. But I believe we can grow by our questions as well as by our answers.*
- Are my values and principles been sacrificed by holding on or letting go?
- Is this affliction producing endurance and patience? Or is it destroying my spirit and my relationship with other people I care for?
- If I hold on and the storm passes, will I be the same person? If not, will I be a better one?
- Barring difficulty without this thing or person, if I let go, will I be able to live with myself?
- Is my situation leading me closer to the Lord?
- What one decision would I make if I knew that it would not fail?
- What one thing should I eliminate from my life because it holds me back from reaching my full potential?
- Am I on the path of something absolutely marvelous, or something absolutely mediocre?
- Am I running from something, or to something?
- Who do I forgive?
- What impossible thing am I believing and planning for?
- What is my most prevailing thought?
- What good thing have I previously committed myself to do that I have quit doing?
- What would a truly creative person do in my situation?
- What outside influences are causing me to be better or worse?
“Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hang on too long.”
Every decision is a matter of risk, whether it is a risk of letting go, or a risk of hanging on. Be silent and listen to that inner voice. We are not powerless in facing the reality of confusion and not knowing. I believe God has a way of telling us the answers to our questions. We are never too deep in our afflictions and it is never too late.
*Most questions are originally from Nugget #4 of An Enemy Called the Average (John Mason)